It's Friday in the ghetto. Michelle has left for work and it's just the house and I for several hours. Time to share, probably in the process learn a little myself. This week thus far has been an eye-opener, some of the things I have been exposed to are seared into my mind, I don't really think I could even began to describe them. Learning about some-one you love is important if you trully want to underdstand them. In the long run any relationship will benefit from a deeper understanding of one's spouse as well as yourself. Some lessons are hard to swallow, though.
Changing gears for a sec, I went to an orthopaedic specialist in Chapel Hill only to learn that I have way more time left to heal than what I prefer. I will not complain though, a young man whom I knew at the resataraunt beside the one I work at is struggling for his life in Chapel Hill right now. Life is so precious and fragile. If I can take anything away from this experience it is that I am no longer the invincible youth I once thought myself to be.
Yesterday Chelle read "The Alchemist". It was funny because we both took towels down to the grassy area beside the pond and "laid out" together. I kept wanting to get up and go inside, but she was trying to finish the book. So I waited, and she finished the book in just two hours. when we got upstairs and out of the sun, which was scorching, we realized we were both burnt to a crisp. I told Mama Dee we were looking like "Red Lobster". Sometimes when you are in love with some-one you will do more than you thought you were capable of, and you will even put your own needs aside to see that person happy.
This part is kinda tricky, because I don't want to reveal whom I am speaking of but have to get this off of my chest. I am familiar with some-one who didn't appreciate what they had. This person caused some-one I love a great deal of pain and scarred them deeply. Love does not mean that you forgo your partners wishes in pursuit of your own. It also does not mean that you intentionally or through shear unthoughfulness negatively impact another's psyche and mental state of well being. If you really love some-one when they tell you something isn't right you will put on your listening cap and try to within the best of your knowledge rectify the situation. I have learned from being with Michelle that a person really puts themself out there whenever they come to you and say "hey, I don't appreciate this". When this happens, be thankful. Your lover has thought enough of you to verbalize their feelings in the hopes that between the two of you there can be some kind of agreement or understanding reached.
Time to go hang out clothes, and wait for my sweet Baby to come home. :)